We commonly hear of people referred to as “pro-life “or “pro-choice.” In the impersonal society in which we live, this is usually a reference to a stoic political position, which is actually quite a misnomer. It’s a good effort by the anti-abortion movement to put a positive spin on its mission. I say this not at all to discount the valuable work the related organizations do to put an end to surgical abortion. It is a very essential work that we end abortion in all its forms, and the organizations and the people behind them that work to this end are some of today’s greatest heroes. They have answered the call to fight the “culture of death” convicted by St. John Paul II as the worst scourge of our time.
But we as Catholics need to ensure that we as individuals are truly pro-life and not just anti-abortion. It all starts with getting back to the basics. Within Sacramental Marriage (only) the sexuality of a husband and wife is a gift from God and should always be unitive and procreative. It should always be an act of love that is always open to the possibility of creating life, conceiving a child. Of course in our anti-life culture, our culture of death, this is an unfathomable way to live. For one, our culture doesn’t see sexuality as something to limit to married couples. Of course now, the major movement is for normalization of disordered homosexual acts. We might only assume that bestiality and incest would follow. Once we break away from a sound moral standard, it gets to be a severely slippery slope.
If we apply this Catholic moral law of sexuality (being unitive and procreative in the context of permanent Sacramental Marriage), we can see the soundness of civility upon which an ordered society can be built. There actually is no other foundation. Anything less is sure to collapse under its own weight. God’s first Commandment was to “increase and multiply” (Gen 1:28), not “add.” We Catholics are to be open to life. How many children should we have? Do we limit our family size out of selfishness or fear? St. John Paul II said “Be not afraid.” Children are a blessing from God. We do not need to lavish upon them every material thing, or store up great bank accounts so they can get a great college “education” (degree) so they can end up in the rat race. Children have very few material needs outside of basic food, clothing, and shelter. If they are raised properly with character, when they reach adulthood they are more than capable of providing for themselves. This is what they really need: the attentive love and presence of parents. Why is it that we as parents think we have to secure them financially for their entire lives? Is this the way God created humanity? Of course not. Fear has no place in the human family; it is a symptom of the presence of the devil. He has convinced so many to fear the most beautiful and innocent of creation, children. This is what is at the heart of abortion and has its roots in sterilization (mutilation) and contraception.
My heart goes out to all the loving couples who would like to have children and are unable to. So many have come to our attention in recent years. They carry a special cross in their lives. I’m sure it is heart wrenching to them to see so many couples purposely cut off the blessings of God. They could be a particular answer to a person who has made a mistake and conceived a child outside of wedlock. Adoption is always a loving option for those who find themselves in an impossible situation. It is never right to kill a child.
But for those of us whom God has blessed with the give to participate in creation with Him, we must stop acting as though we are God and start to trust Him. By wanting to do too much for our children we place a limit of what He can do in them. God created man in Him image (cf Gen 1:27). We are all engineered for success and greatness. Loving couples in Sacramental Marriage must honor the vows they take before God and welcome children without limiting the possibilities. These children grow and develop to do amazing wonderful things if only given the chance. So many are not even given the chance neither at conception nor birth. What a conviction that will be upon our people and our Church.
Our Faith teaches us the proper order for our lives and the proper end of Sacramental Marriage. We only need to open our eyes and our hearts to being generous in the most powerful and generative aspect of our marriages. Christ came to give life and to give it to the full (cf John 10:10). Do we reflect His love and generosity in our own marriages or do we follow the world, the flesh, and the devil and all their empty promises?
God bless you+